Musings on relationships - I

How and why humans interact and develop relationships is a largely unknown and unpredictible thing and the insignificant knowledge that psychologists claim to have developed is very esoteric and (I believe) largely erroneous. So here I will try to pen some of my thoughts and see some things become progressively clearer and perhaps even share some of my attempts to conquer this befuddlement. I don't care about how or why you tend to like some people and not others. But after you realize you like someone, they tend to constantly occupy your thoughts and on rare occasions even alter your decisions and thus your life. But the trouble is deciding the level of the relationship or giving it a name. You can be employer-employee, acquaintances, friends, buddies, bros (I see these last three as levels of friendships :D ) or in love (there might be degrees to this feeling of love too which I am yet to discover, I somehow feel it would be just one level for this kind of relationship) and possibly many more that I can't think of right now.
I don't think there is anything interesting enough to discuss in the employer-employee relationships - but for the others there are some things to be said. Sometimes when you meet a person you can develop a liking for him/her instantly, but there might not be an equal reciprocation. So does that mean you fret over it or let the friendship go? No, you tend to adjust your degree of interest and likeness and let things evolve - basically get to a common page somehow. I reckon this is such an obvious thing that we do it subconsciously most of the times. If we dig deep into our memory, we will find people we liked and wanted to befriend but are just acquaintances with or sometimes the other way round too! The issue becomes more serious when there is love involved - if one of the people develops romantic feelings for the other and there is no such feeling from the other side - it spells misery for both and their relationship. What we don't realize is that when there is mutual liking between two people, it is a bridge connecting them, whether the bridge is a shear one or collosal and strong one doesn't matter as much as long as there is a connection. Or to say it more simply as long as the relationship exists, the name of it matters considerably less. So what I mean is - if you love someone, and there is no reciprocation, having a relationship of friendship should make you happy as well.
Thinking more practically, girls are such complex creatures that there is constant confusion over their behavior and you find it difficult to be sure of what level you are mutually connected with them. Added to that they are very good at losing their temper, so if you misinterpret anything there is bound to be retribution. So even at the cost of not being understanding, you need to ask them to make explicit the goings on of their heads. Thats not a panacea but then everything in life is too realistic to be idealistic and hence no formula can be derived for any part of it. This is just one of the solutions that I think should be tried once in your attempts at breaking from the state of befuddlement !