Musings on relationships - II

Someone told me to write a sequel to one of my articles. So then there are some people more free than me so as to actually read the crap. The article in question was on how not to give the right to hurt you to someone in a hurry. It is required of me to outline the steps for actually identifying such a person whom you can give this right to. I promised I will give it a try so I will though I don't believe I can. So we know that for us such people are relationships that are not done for any gain, it is something we do unknowingly - basically you do not really have control over the choice of people. What you can best do is to delay things till you are sure. So I change the question as to when can you be relatively sure. Well once you think you have reached that state you need to evaluate - and think about our relationship and see if things are  as sweet as they seem or are you doing some wishful tihnking. So you spend a lot of time together, you go out a lot. But this doesn't mean anything. Any relationship is two way (feelings are one way) and you have to see that there is give and take from both sides. Now when I say give and take I mean that in terms of things like money, love, affection, power, protection or any amenities or privileges. And certainly there is no measure involved, no need to match gestures. All there is needed is an intent to give and to care from the person you take. Now it is not an easy task, and I don't think saying what I have said really helps much. There will be a lot of difficult signs to read still and to interpret them. I guess I am at most (hopefully) pointing people (at least one person who asked me to write this :D ) in the right direction.