Pillars of happiness shaken

What do we need to be happy? Its different things for different people.. money, love, beauty, success, family, career, etc. Most people (who are not downright miserable with their lives) manage to be ensconced with whatever they have in their lives. These things are akin to pillars in our lives and they bring us happiness - they are perhaps the pillars of happiness in our lives. There are still many demands, dreams and misgivings from life but we tend to take the things we have for granted. We find it inconceivable to imagine a world without the the support of these pillars. These provide us something greater than physical comforts, the comfort of having our desires fulfilled - of having the things that matter to us. But there are times when a drastic event may take away something that forms an integral part of our lives - the death of a loved one, financial loses, loss of self-respect, losing a job, health, fights in the family etc.. Again it can be different things for different people .. it is the loss of someone or something that holds dear importance in our lives.
We being insignificant beings eventually come to terms with the fact that there is nothing we can do about the event and that the happening could not be controlled and continuing is the only option. This is very normal. But there are a few unlucky souls who are haunted by a sense of guilt. The problem is that in bad times most people seek to find reasons for the problem. Some find it easy to blame fate for it and use this to practice a whole bunch of stupid superstitions. Then there are a few who tend to blame others and seek vengeance for it. The third and perhaps the most unfortunate kind are the ones who blame themselves - there is no struggle when you are punishing yourself and as such the impasse continues and sense of guilt grows.

What we need to look at is that as the problems in life are not mechanical - there can be no factual answer to the question of who or what is responsible for them. In most cases there can be no correct answer and so we cannot know the answer.
We imagine different combinations of events and try to find one that would prevent the loss of our dear one/possession. So eventually all the ifs and thens that we may think up during this desperate act of imaging a solution we come up with nothing meaningful. The simple reason being that life is not based on logic - some things are too complex to be governed by rules or logic.
If we feel that there is something in us that could have lead to such a loss - we should seek to remove it. That is our responsibility. We do not need to lose something to do that - the sad part is that most times these losses make us take a closer look at ourselves and this is when we realize our follies. So instead of blaming our follies for the loss we suffer - we should seek to make amends and be happy that with the loss came a small gain. Live life in a constructive manner and life will grow new buds to replace the fallen flowers.